Two years has come and gone faster than I ever could have imagined. Nick and I started dating four years ago this month; got engaged a year later, and married one after that. As if on schedule, one year later, we found out I was pregnant. So far, this May has been fairly tame, but the month has been traditionally something of importance in our relationship. Leading up to the wedding, I had waffled on whether to hire a videographer. The expense seemed totally unjustified, and I couldn’t go through with it. Then, at the last minute, Nick’s dad was in the hospital for several weeks and it was becoming apparent that he would not be able to make it to the wedding. Nick’s family is extraordinarily close, and it was a huge blow to Nick, his mom, and everyone in the family. So, at the last minute, I spent a couple of paychecks on hiring someone to film the wedding.
We had scheduled a daytime wedding (New Orleans is so hard because the churches don’t let you schedule an evening wedding mass until 7 PM which is way too late for me- think an hour for mass, transportation to venue, starting the reception around 8:30, and then I’m ready for bed!) I also envisioned a bright ceremony with the sun streaming into the church and plenty of natural light for photographs. In the end, I think it was something of Divine Intervention. Having the wedding earlier in the day allowed us to drive back to the hospital to visit Nick’s dad after the wedding. We ditched our fancy hotel plans and crashed at our apartment afterward, indulging in a few extra slices of wedding cake. Aside from the obvious absence of his dad, the day could not have been any more perfect… and I am so, SO grateful that I have this video to look back on and share with his father. My mom is also obsessed with watching this video on repeat, and I have to admit, it makes me tear up a bit when I watch it on our anniversary. If you’re getting married, or know someone who is, I highly recommend spending the extra bit of money on a video. As our planner told us- she’s never had anyone regret getting a video, but plenty of people regret not getting one. There are no re-dos! If it isn’t within the budget, at least try to get someone to snag the important parts on an iPhone!
Looking back at this day two years ago is so incredibly special. The past two years have been incredible with this guy and I cannot imagine spending my life any other way. To celebrate, we went to dinner at one of our favorite restaurants. It’s the same place we celebrated last year, only this year I was able to enjoy a cocktail (I had just found out I was pregnant with Harrison in 2017). Last minute, I slid on my emerald ring before dinner since it went with my dress and I knew it would make Nick happy to see me wear it… and by the time I got home, lo and behold, it was stuck. Deja vu from pregnancy swelling. Except now I think my fingers are just permanently larger. I am really struggling with the thought of having to have another ring cut off, so I’m waiting to see if I’m just ridiculously bloated and maybe in a few days I’ll have better luck. In the meantime, if you have suggestions other than floss/string, Windex, astroglide, butter, or ice, I am open to hearing them!
As for gifts, I like to try to stick to the “traditional” gifts. Either the classic or the modern traditional. Last year, I found this cool, old newspaper clipping of a famous boxing match that John James Fitzpatrick, a former mayor of New Orleans and ancestor of Nick’s, officiated. That was the “paper” gift. Nick got me a watch (clocks are the “modern” traditional gift).
This year, Nick had a painting of our dog commissioned by one of our friends who is a phenomenol artist (on the traditional gift of *cotton* canvas. We have several of his paintings in our house already, but this one was so special. The detail is incredible!
I am the worst gift giver ever, however. I couldn’t think of any good “cotton” gifts, and the modern equivalent is China… and what guy likes China? So I thought why not get him something from China? I started looking at antique Chinese tobacco pipes and found some on ebay that were really amazing works of art. I ordered one from the late 1800s early 1900s and it was especially cool in person but EXTREMELY long and heavy. Not really a practical thing. Afterward, upon doing more research, I think it’s actually Japanese, so I think I failed on the traditional gift front, but I do think it will look really neat in a shadow box. Nick has also been into history and Asian culture (like martial arts), so I though it would be a cool gift (supposedly these pipes also doubled as weapons!). Anyway. Hopefully next year’s gift will be easier. Leather ideas, anyone?